life is a journey .Every good or bad situtation we have been through is a mile stone reached .Learning from our mistakes and celebrating our success is a part of life.
Remembering the bad experiences in our life and chosing not to retaliate is most challenging task that has ever been placed before us .
There are several occasions when i have prayed to swami to punish my enemy,eventhough i knew that this was a wrong kind of prayer.Praying to punish someone is nothing but a form of revenge.
All it does is ,demoralise the beautiful relationship that I have with swami .I soon realised that if i don't put an end to this, I might squander my entire time and energy plotting on counter attack, leading to several unhealthy thought and behaviour.So as a corrective measure i chose to forget and forgive.
I have always been under the impression that forgiving and forgetting go hand in hand ,so if i forget them, i forgive them and i was working so hard on forgetting these "not so good" people in my life that I kind of started hiding from them and forgetting them seemed practically impossible.The problem seemed so elusive to me.
Thats when i happened to have this random conversation with my friend and it gave me an aspiration to solve my ever so long problem.Her opinion was Forgiving is not forgetting
Forgetting is running away from the problem you have faced so far and forgiving is being prepared to face such similar situations and handle them more smartly.
Swami says DO NOT RETALIATE TO PEOPLE WHO HURT YOU
whoever has committed a mistake would face the consequences, by advising us to stay calm doesnt mean that swami would punish the person and pacify our anger, all he expects here is that we dont forget the person and problems caused by them but forgive them and be prepared.
when we start practising this ,any encounter with that "not so good person" whom we used to loath will be so easy that they will appear as any other normal person to us , not with a " I hate you" tag and our normal behaviour towards them would make them quizzical.
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ReplyDeleteValuable post. In our daily life we come across persons who are "not so good". I have a lot of experiences with that kind. They will not listen to us and they will in turn argue with us. At first I used to argue with them as much as possible and try to succeed. But after some days I realized that it is waste of time. We are unnecessarily wasting our energy instead we can use to do some help to others, pray god etc.
so whenever I see those kind of person I will not speak to them by myself, if they talk to me then I will reply in simple words. This doesn't mean that I hate them. I will stay away from them.
We should never take seriously what a bad person said to us. Baba never use to think of what Bhate (Baba opposer) used to say about Baba. Baba said "if I think about what Bhate is saying about me then I cannot think about my devotees." It is waste of time to think about those kind of persons.
Instead he forgiven Bhate. That is the greatness of Baba. But we cannot do this. It will come by practice and that takes some time.
Plz comment if I am wrong.
my mother who is a great follower of sri sai says that every chapter of sai's satcharitra conveys a unique meaning to its reader and thats sai's way of teaching..and i second that.. so nobody can ever be wrong ..
ReplyDeletei really appreciate your understanding and that you are putting it into practice ..mentioning about how baba felt about bhate is a good encouragement for all like me who are still working getting this kind of attitude.
thank you.