Forgive but do not Forget..

life is a journey .Every good or bad situtation we have been through is a mile stone reached .Learning from our mistakes and celebrating our success is a part of life.

Remembering the bad experiences in our life and chosing not to retaliate is most challenging task that has ever been placed before us .
There are several occasions when i have prayed to swami to punish my enemy,eventhough i knew that this was a wrong kind of prayer.Praying to punish someone is nothing but a form of revenge.

All it does is ,demoralise the beautiful relationship that I have with swami .I soon realised that if i don't put an end to this, I might squander my entire time and energy plotting on counter attack, leading to several unhealthy thought and behaviour.So as a corrective measure i chose to forget and forgive.

I have always been under the impression that forgiving and forgetting go hand in hand ,so if i forget them, i forgive them and i was working so hard on forgetting these "not so good" people in my life that I kind of started hiding from them and forgetting them seemed practically impossible.The problem seemed so elusive to me.

Thats when i happened to have this random conversation with my friend and it gave me an aspiration to solve my ever so long problem.Her opinion was Forgiving is not forgetting

Forgetting is running away from the problem you have faced so far and forgiving is being prepared to face such similar situations and handle them more smartly.

Swami says DO NOT RETALIATE TO PEOPLE WHO HURT YOU
whoever has committed a mistake would face the consequences, by advising us to stay calm doesnt mean that swami would punish the person and pacify our anger, all he expects here is that we dont forget the person and problems caused by them but forgive them and be prepared.
when we start practising this ,any encounter with that "not so good person" whom we used to loath will be so easy that they will appear as any other normal person to us , not with a " I hate you" tag and our normal behaviour towards them would make them quizzical.